Posts Tagged ‘confidence’

LiLTweeks: You don’t have to know the details, just be prepared

The other day I tried on a pair of pants I had bought three weeks earlier. But these weren’t the same pants. The thigh area of the pant legs were so tight they would not have made it out of the store and onto my bill without trying on another pair. And now that I think back I had tried those pants on and they did fit comfortably enough to toss into my bag. So what happened?

Last week I was sub contracted to provide air quality testing services for a commercial environmental safety company. The task required me to collect air samples then walk down and up flights of stairs as high as 140 ft. several times a day in a respirator mask dodging temperatures of 100 – 150 degrees to our mobile laboratory. Granted this type of work isn’t something you can just jump into without being in moderately good health.

Had you saw the physical condition I was in at the close of 2009 you would understand that there’s no way to have fooled myself into thinking I’d be able to take advantage of such a well paying opportunity. I was unemployed, emotionally drained, spiritually crushed, and grossly out of shape compared to my norm. That’s when I started a daily two-mile walk regiment that included climbing eight flights of steps where I live instead of taking the elevator. I knew that when the chance came for me to get back into the game of life I’d better be ready.

Not only was I ready to collect from a well paying job with all of its physical demands, but I also have fabulous quads, calves, and abs for that beachfront vacation next month. You gotta love this life or you’ll hate the journey.

Stay focused. Stay confident and believe your preparation will pass emissions test.

LiLTweeks (Lessons I Learned This Week) is a weekly observation of some problems I’ve encountered and possible actions for resolve. If you have been inspired from this article please leave a comment and consider subscribing to the RSS (top right column) to have future post delivered to your feed reader [look for Weekend Post].


Nurturing creative money making ideas in your kids.

My kid has a crazy sensation to . . . But, I don’t know?

Does your child have non-traditional pursuits of interest? It doesn’t have to be odd interest like collecting all those single socks that come up missing in the laundry for some unknown ongoing school project. His thing could be something you don’t have an interest in, nor, do you believe it’s worth sacrificing for, like editing digital photography or developing gaming programs.

Don’t be a dream crusher.

When was the last time you told a close friend, you wished your parents would have supported your dream to pursue what you were crazy about doing as a kid? Ever wonder how your life would be different if someone had blown wind into your sails? I’m still trying to get past some of my childhood dream crushers, so I don’t wind up saying one day, “If only I had been courageous enough to write my first script or shoot my own short film?”

Be creative with funding your child’s interest.

Cortlan Wickliff, a 19-year-old inventor and senior at Rice University, recently organized a youth camp to teach kids about math and science. All inspired from him following his mother to her college classes because it was less expensive than paying for childcare. He says his mother didn’t buy him the newest Jordan’s, but she did spend $300 to get him on a plane so he could see the world.

Maybe you’re raising the next tech savvy entrepreneur like Ephren W. Taylor II the youngest African-American CEO of any publicly traded company ever—City Capital Corporation (OTCBB:CTCC) runs a multi-million dollar technology enterprise. His parents were moderately creative in funding his interest to play video games. They told him that in order for him to play video games he would have to create his own. The rest is his-story. What’s yours?

Stay focused, stay confident, and blow wind in his sails.

Kids Mind Your Own Business is loaded with tips of how parents can help their children build business skills with little to no money down. If you have been inspired from this article please leave a comment and consider subscribing to the RSS (top right column) to have future post delivered to your feed reader [look for Weekend Post]. Connect with me @laroncarter on Twitter.

LiLTweeks: The Philosophy of Winning, Part 1

“True character in a winner is not boiled down to one event or situation. Winners are made of the stuff that can get back up, dust off the dirt, wipe away the tears, ignore the stinky smell you’ve stepped into, and focus through the pain with confidence to perform better next time the whistle blows.”

(Note: Philosophy of Winning is an excerpt from soon to be published Special Report on Winning)

Winning or even being a winner means something different to just about anyone you ask to share their thoughts on the subject. Straight talk on it is, even though many of us buy into what others think it means to be a winner, what you personally believe and how you feel about it is what brings out the champion in you.

Believe you are a winner, even when no one else does.

Say it like you mean it, “I’m a winner and there’s nothing you can do about it.” What does that feel like? In high school I was part of a group of guys called Hard, Inc. We were cut from a unique breed of athletes, walking around chanting how fine we were, long before MC Hammer wrote, “Can’t Touch This.”

My grandmother would often tell me, “It’s not always what you say, but how you say it, that wins friends and creates enemies.” Before long I learned that you can look at competition the same way. Nana could have easily said, “It’s not the win or loss that matters, but how you played the game, that makes you a winner?” (To be continued. . . )

LiLTweeks (Lessons I Learned This Week) is a weekly observation of some problems I’ve encountered and possible actions for resolve. If you have been inspired from this article please leave a comment and consider subscribing to the RSS (top right column) to have future post delivered to your feed reader [look for Weekend Post].

A smile and wave can lead to big connections

Photo credit by Pink Sherbet

The other day I found myself in unfamiliar territory. Sort of an awkward situation of not knowing anyone from the environment nor was I sure if I was even where I was suppose to be. The reality of it all could have worked against me had I chose to be taken over by fear of the unknown.

Or the reality of my perception could afford me confidence to look at the situation through eyes that saw things for what they were worth. Opportunity. Now you maybe thinking, “Was this guy in some sort of potentially violent situation?” Not at all, I was simply picking up a set of keys for a facility that was being rented in a city I wasn’t familiar with from people that would recognize me from another neighborhood than theirs.

The scenario is common in all sorts of circumstances, but its paying attention to what’s going on around you that can produce the results you need from potentially stressful situations. I was on a schedule to find the place in a certain time frame, my Blackberry battery had died, and the location wasn’t exactly where I was told it would be.

Would you introduce me to him?

Driving to the back of the building I noticed a young girl playing with a rather large dog. Approaching her put a welcoming smile on her face as she began to waive and apparently signal me to a parking spot.

As I got out of the car she became aware of her surroundings and was less warm than before. My reaction was to recognize this and see the little kid as a connection to the person I was meeting. Careful not to spook her (or the rather big dog) making any inappropriate movements, I introduced myself and took a gamble of asking if her dad was there? With a smile I asked little Becky to introduce me to him since we had already met each other. I asked Becky’s dad if he was affiliated with the adjoining rental hall. He said he was a friend with Karl, but that Karl was a business partner with Tulane who rented out the reception hall upstairs.

While waiting for Karl to finish with a customer, Becky’s dad explained that while in Germany he had developed a taste for the variety of brews and upon returning to the US hooked up with Karl to start a hops and barley supply business where they offered products for brewing and distillery. My Grandfather fermented homemade wines and I had also toured Germany while serving in the Marines so the conversation took off from there.

The Red Salamander and 7 Islands Meeting and Reception Hall

Karl took me up stairs to meet his business partner Tulane and there I had been connected with a wonderful group of people that began with an introduction from a kid that smiled and waived. Becky suspected I was in an unfamiliar place yet she drew on her confidence from simply being aware of what was going on around her. I was aware of my surroundings and drew on the power of a wave and a smile as a trustworthy act that could lead to big connections and it did. Paying attention to your surroundings and knowing your limits could give you the confidence needed to solve problems without stressing over them.

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