Archive for June, 2010

LiLTweeks: How to derail unhealthy living?

The lesson I learned this week [LiLTweeks] marinated over a few days. During that time I revisited how valuable exercise combined with outdoor exploration is for rebuilding muscle and renewing the spirit man in all of us. I also learned the challenges of getting back in shape can be more difficult than jumping onto the track designed for healthy living.

Time for recovery

Last month I traveled four hours by car to visit my mother after a long winter hibernation. After making the rounds visiting family and friends I was ready to pick back up the exercise routine started weeks earlier. I set out to explore a few miles of her suburban neighborhood. Within minutes I noticed bicyclist and joggers crossing the street and heading down a path, I came to find out was named the Monon Rail Trail. This course of exercise routes stretches from the north end of the city over more than ten miles between backyard residential communities to downtown Indianapolis.

A culture of pleasantries

For an entire week I walked 2 – 4 miles every morning amongst the other peaceful exercisers on the rail. The Monon has its own culture and rules of courtesy. There’s the smile and head nod as you approach a passerby. Dogs have manners and walk on a short leash. Then there’s the friendly, “On your left,” bicyclist use to warn pedestrians they’re about to whisk by. The asphalt trail is maintenanced daily by the city, but its natural beauty of trees and bushes are left to appear uninhabited. The perfect conditions for mental and physical rehabilitation I desperately needed.

Fitting into others space

New lessons in life are more rare as I get older, but those repeat lessons are reinforced daily as in that first Sunday’s late afternoon walk. It just wasn’t the same. There were literally ten times as many users bustling the rail. Hardly anyone used the rules I had come accustomed to. And the friendly smiles and eye contact from earlier in the week were nowhere to be found. This was clearly a different breed of which I didn’t fit in. Or was it that they didn’t fit.

iShape the world I live in

The experience made me think about how others affect my world. Yeah, I wondered why that bicyclist with more than 100 meters of space between the two of us and the person ahead felt it was a good time to spit in my direction after passing by. And I must admit it was a challenge to keep smiling when others didn’t smile back. I was tempted to give up and close into my own little space like everyone else. After all there was plenty of stuff going on in my head that I was using the Monon Rail to get away from. When the world doesn’t acknowledge my role as equal I realized that as an individual I still contribute to shaping the world as it tries to shape me.

I’m reminded of an adage my mother mailed over seas to me more than 30 years ago, “Use your head to get along. To get along use your head.” Words to live by. Thank you mother.

Stay focused. Stay confident and believe you shape our world.

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LiLTweeks: Guaranteed social media success worth following.

The lesson I learned this week [LiLTweeks] came from observations around my most favorite social media superstars getting all the blogger buzz, Twitter re-tweets and reply’s, and profile status update comments on Facebook. It’s enough to make a want-a-be enthusiast jealous for attention with all the wrong motives.

Popularity listings worth modeling

Most of us have seen the Twitter users with 1,856,000 followers tweeting random mental gushes of what’s happening in their world of fame and fortune. Now and then there are famous people I’ve managed to sneak in a confirmed Facebook friend request before they reached 5K and move to the overflowing Like Page, if that’s even possible post Oprah’s social media jump. But few of them connect back with us like Paulo Coehlo or Mari Smith. Then there are my above average Facebook friends (Ty Adams) that earn special celebrity status within our community because they post great content that gets many more comments and likes than most of us do.

Stop it right now

Have you noticed people creating problems for themselves trying to win social media popularity contest in an effort to get the most comment replies? I’ve been guilty of posting favorite quotes to the point of plain intellectual laziness myself. I suppose it’s a learning process. Every now and then one of my friends will rant about witnessing spiritual campaigns people launch to convince the world of fake “I’m living holy” status updates backed by bible scriptures to get attention. Word to the wise, “If that’s you stop it?”

Just be a friend

I know a few of my friends will wonder if I’m talking about them so let me set the record straight right now. None of my friends behave that way. That is you don’t behave that way without me eventually telling you about yourself. I expect to be treated the same and have been in the past. That’s what friends do. Friends don’t let friends faux tweet or falsify status updates. From one friend to another, being a friend is about doing something good for others like showing them you care. That’s all. Just list your friends and follow them to the point of ensuring their confidence in you being there. Making friends smile when they need it most guarantees social media success to the point of following you back and maybe even buying your stuff.

Stay focused. Stay confident, keep posting valuable content, and you will be followed.

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How to show Facebook friends you care using lists?

From time to time my Facebook (and Twitter) friends express how lonely it can be online because they don’t understand how to get the most out of the site, get others to comment on their stuff or be blessed to have them “talk to the wall” when they don’t have Mari Smith celebrity status (Love you girl). So how do you show Facebook friends that you care even if it doesn’t get the social response you desperately need?

Social Media: PLN 7.5

Good friends know how to grow that covenant personal relationship sharing affections that eventually transcends boundaries that guard our core feelings. Yet many of us forget these basic truths when connecting with people we call our friends.

That’s where Facebook Lists come in. By creating lists those you follow are placed under a microscope for smoothly merging onto the many social media highways out there. That way your paths are more likely to cross outside of your personal space. It’s an effective way for getting yourself onto Facebook radar patterns. Not so much for being seen as it is for discovering the minds of those added as friends so that you can comment on their status updates, notes, and “Like” their pictures and links.

If you ever wondered why you never saw so and so’s status updates in the Most Recent and Top News feeds of your home page it’s because you didn’t know where to look.

Creating and closely following lists helps to discover content you need for showing friends how much you care.

You become valuably important by establishing trust and being found credible over time, two of the most valuable qualities we can contribute to the community teaches Facebook friend Michael Port, national best selling author of Beyond Booked Solid, Think Big Manifesto, and The Contrarian Effect.

Facebook and Twitter friend Tiffany Michelle Alexander says, “I have several lists. Family and close friends, book lovers, film lovers, hometown folks, -easier for me to keep track of people and things that way.” So how do we create these lists?

1) You can take care of placing people that you’ve requested into lists before they accept you as a friend by clicking the Add to List drag down bar. The same can be done for those trying to be added as a friend to your Facebook.

2) I always recommend adding a comment.

3) If you didn’t catch them before now, it’s Ok. Go to your Edit Friends option (top right Home > Profile > Account link) and place them into a list or create a new one.

4) Finding your list can be a little tricky, but I’ll walk you through being able to follow your friends more closely. From your Home page click Friends in the left column of the page. Go down a little click More. That’s it, just find the list you’ve created and click again to find all those lost updates.

Stay focused. Stay confident and accountable for making friends smile like Chris Gloss champions. I guarantee they’ll start replying more often to your stuff.

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I can’t seem to update my Twitter list?

I created my Twitter account long before lists were developed. Now that it exists I’m not able to over come the huge task of organizing all of my connections. You’d think I would at least be able to add new followers to list I created over a year ago, it’s embarrassing.

Social Media: PLN 7.4

I don’t know what it is about getting caught up on organizing my Twitter List. Maybe I feel a rant coming on because the WiFi I’m on in the public library is so slow right now. But honestly, the issue of staying current with my list may cause me to hire one of my young cousins to work it out, because the benefits far out way the challenge.

Out source on a small budget

The way I look at it is that I’m going to spend valuable time learning how Twitter works, sharing newly discovered content, and creating personal leaning networks I should at least use my time wisely by following the lists feature. Otherwise the challenge of following those with shared interest become closer to resembling a needle in a haystack everyday my small account grows bigger.

Here’s why lists are so valuable:

Brings valuable content to the top
If you’re smart the reason for following people is to connect and learn. Lists allow you to place users into categories of like interest that brings those feeds to the top of all the other noise.

Sends a message I care about your news
You’ll rarely see the news feeds of those you care about if you’re not on line when they are posting their content. By clicking on the lists you’ve created of them you will be able to comment replies more often sending a message that you are genuinely following their stuff.

Subscribed to lists feature builds network
Once you subscribe to someone’s list your learning network is exponentially increased and your feeds become more visible as well. Who wouldn’t like more followers for a daily ego rush?

Makes me more Twitter Savvy
I love my social media, but my time is valuable when I’m online. Creating category lists and maintaining it (ouch) is just plain smart use of your time.

Ok. Ok already. I’m committed to naming June, Social Media List Update Month. Being a smart follower is far too important not to.

Stay focused. Stay confident and stay on top of your list for Twitter savvy consciousness.

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